“Generation Rapist: Is Online Porn Making Boys Violent?” (With advice to parents on how to avert this from happening)

Here’s an informative article on how porn is affecting boys and young men and conditioning them to be rapists and abusers. ~ It also has some very good advice about how parents can help prevent this. Check it out!

[Metro World News] — Jared Watkins, a 23-year-old in Washington, DC, doesn’t have any illusions about men’s sexuality: “Most men my age watch porn. We’re the first generation that grew up with porn so easily available to us. Pornography is starting to get more violent, and we feel disgusted with ourselves for watching it, but many of us are confused about their disgust, because they think this is what real sex is like.”

Indeed, today’s boys watch porn growing up – and a lot of it. According to new surveys, the average boy now starts viewing porn at age 11 – even boys as young as seven now watch it. What they see is often hardcore.

“Sexual curiosity is healthy, but we’re raising our boys on violent porn,” says Carleton Hendrick, a Harvard-educated psychotherapist in Massachusetts who has treated hundreds of teenagers. “Thanks to the internet, porn is now boys’ primary sex educator. They watch it on their computers, on their phones, their tablets and their friends’ computers. With the average viewing time per week being two hours, it means they see thousands of images that tell them that cruel, violent sexual acts against girls are permissible, even desired by girls. It’s having staggering consequences on our boys, and by implication on our girls.”

Todd Spaulding, clinical director at the Oxbow Academy in rural Utah, treats such boys. “Ten boys can look at porn, and you can’t predict whether they’ll become abusers,” he explains. “But the reality is that they can watch anything online, including sadistic and cruel sex. This sex is objectification and dehumanization of girls. Their attitude becomes, ‘You’re an object and therefore I can do whatever I want to you’.”

Oxbow treats 40 boys at the time in its residential program; it’s not even a drop in the bucket, as Spaulding acknowledges. That’s where Neil Irvin comes in. As executive director of the group Men Can Stop Rape, Irvin teaches young boys across the United States – and now abroad – about healthy sexuality.

“I’m a math and history teacher by training,” he says. “Teaching sexuality is as important! We show boys what can happen to them if they use drugs or pornography. We help them understand healthy sexuality and give them male role models they can talk to when they meet a girl they’re attracted to.”

Without programs like Irvin’s, do we risk raising sexual predators, and women willing to accept violence? Candida Royalle, a pioneer of the feminist ‘by-and-for-women’ porn genre, believes the risk is exaggerated: “While some standard porn can be described as sexist and at times degrading, it’s not particularly violent. And while it may model sexual behavior that’s not sensitive to what women want, for the most part it’s not promoting violence.”

But, observes Hendrick, girls are growing up with the idea that they have to subject themselves to boys’ porn-style desires: “Many girls even go on porn sites to see what boys really want, even though it hurts. Girls are outperforming boys academically and succeeding at every other level, but in order to please boys they sexually degrade themselves.”

Boys and sex: Preventing rape

Two million boys have attended Men Can Stop Rape’s school program, the Men of Strength club (MOST). “We send 100 selected boys invitations saying, ‘You’ve been nominated as a leader of your school’,” explains Neil Irvin. “Then the boys are invited to a meeting with pizza and a cool movie.” MOST’s leaders then tell them that not everyone will be invited to join. “That makes them want to be selected,” explains Irvin. “The members get special access to things. That makes the program cool.”

Keep red flags down: How to prevent your son from developing an unhealthy porn habit:

1. Talk with your child about sex very early. Teach him about good touching, bad touching, secret touching.
2. Set boundaries. The more internet access you give your kids, the more they’ll access harmful content.
3. If he exceeds his internet privileges, confiscate his computer or iPad. Don’t try to be his friend, even if being strict results in his saying he’ll punch a hole in the wall.
4. If your son watches porn, talk about it. Don’t vilify his attraction to girls, or even to other boys, but explain that it’s not healthy to keep viewing such websites. It will be an uncomfortable conversation, but it has to be!
5. If your son develops a pornography habit, ask why he feels excited about porn. Don’t take “I don’t know” for an answer. Explain that sexual attraction is a good thing, and why you don’t want him to get it through watching porn.

http://www.metro.us/newyork/news/national/2013/02/28/generation-rapist-is-online-porn-making-boys-violent/

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AntiPornography.org Update! January 19, 2013 at 07:40AM

Check out this disturbing but informative article on the fastest growing segment of the #pornindustry: “#CamGirls.” The article is written by CNBC, which sadly seems to be promoting “camming” as a legitimate career and a great way to make lots of easy money. However, they are making it sound much better and more lucrative than it really is, and are leaving out the DOWN SIDES of being a “cam girl,” such as:

1) risking future embarrassment, as many people WILL find out about it

2) having to live with one’s naked pictures and videos on the Web forever, including after one gets married, has children, or moves on to a more mainstream job, if any of those happens, (note: it is easy for “customers” to record what is on the screen, even in “private sessions”, and then share it with the world at file-sharing or pornography “tube” sites, etc.

3) “customers” often want cam girls to masturbate with fingers, dildos and other objects inserted into one’s vagina, mouth or anus, while being willing to engage in or be subjected to degrading “dirty talk.” (I.e. being called a “dirty whore,” or “filthy little slut,” etc.

4) customers who say even ruder, more insulting and misogynist things are common.

So… It is NOT all rainbows, sunshine and tons of cash pouring in 24/7 like the article implies…

Note: The “cam girl” website, LiveJasmine.com, that is referred to in the article, is the #41st most regularly visited site on the Internet in the U.S., and the 56th in the world. It is also the 3rd most visited porn site on the Internet in the United States. So “camming” is indeed, unfortunately, a very big “business”! 😦

CAM GIRLS: THE NEW PORN SUPERSTARS (Article excerpt)

[CNBC] — It’s not just porn films that have been disrupted by the Internet. It’s porn stars, too.

Ten – or even five – years ago, the highest earners of porn were the actresses whose names marqueed big films. Today, they’re more likely to be models who will never perform a hard core sex scene on camera – and whose face will never appear on a DVD cover.

They’re known as CamGirls – and they make their money by stripping in front of a computer webcam, while hundreds – often thousands – of people watch live online, paying anywhere from token amounts to major cash outlays.

The adult webcam industry currently tops $1 billion – and is growing fast, said Sean Phillips, vice president of marketing for SexyJobs.com, a recruitment service for adult models. Collectively, the webcam industry is estimated to be visited daily by some 5 percent of the web’s global users – with one site (LiveJasmine) reaching over 2 percent alone, according to Alexa.com.

“Five years ago, webcam was just about 5 percent of the job offers on our site,” he said at a conference session during InterNext, an adult business convention in Las Vegas that precedes the Adult Entertainment Expo. “Today, we have about 2,500 job offers being made every day on our site –and over half of them are for webcam girls.”

As with any aspect of entertainment – adult or otherwise – some stars make more than others. Doug Richter of Adult Webmaster Empire, which runs LiveJasmine, said the site’s top performer made $34,000 last month – by working just four to five nights per week. (That’s after the site and her agent took their cut.) Another model, who goes by the name “Miss Kitty,” makes $25,000 per month on only two to three weeks of work per month.

And that’s hardly the top of the pile.

Ross Love, owner of the Best Kept Secret Talent Agency, said he has one model who makes as much as $2,000 to $3,000 per night – but limits herself to income of $10,000 per month. Some top models, he said, are making between $75,000 and $100,000 per month on the site MyFreeCams.com.

Each cam site works slightly different, but the idea is largely the same. Viewers head to a website where they’re presented with a huge assortment of models to choose from. Once they pick one, they enter a public forum with other users, where they can chat with the model about anything they’d like and offer “tips” – which can range from just a few cents to thousands of dollars. (Hosting sites generally split the tips with the model.)

For those tips, models will strip – sometimes in “private” sessions, which aren’t viewable to the public.To watch those, users must pay a per-minute fee and often tip on top of that.

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