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Please support the campaign to BOYCOTT Fifty Shades of Grey and to donate to domestic violence shelters instead! ~~~ #50dollarsnot50shades !!

You can out more about this campaign at the Facebook page for “50 Dollars not 50 Shades” below, which we encourage you to LIKE and support!

https://www.facebook.com/pages/50-Dollars-not-50-Shades/713262428793958

Here is a directory of domestic violence shelters and help organizations around the world that people can contribute to:

http://www.hotpeachpages.net/

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To learn more about the harms of “Fifty Shades of Grey”, please visit our page on this topic and The National Center on Sexual Exploitation’s page on it:

http://www.antipornography.org/Fifty_Shades_of_Grey_harm.html

http://endsexualexploitation.org/fiftyshadesgrey

To learn more about the harms of sadomasochism in general, please see our page below, as well as our SayNOtoSadomasochism YouTube channel:

http://www.antipornography.org/sadomasochism.html

http://www.youtube.com/SayNOtoSadomasochism

For our own ongoing updates about the campaign, please follow our SayNOtoSadomasochism Twitter account!

https://twitter.com/NOSadomasochism

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Many thanks and well done to Stop Porn Culture, the London Abused Women’s Centre and the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (formerly Pornography Harms) for their important efforts in creating, running or sponsoring this vital effort! Please like and support their Facebook pages, Twitter accounts and their other social media accounts and efforts as well!

http://www.facebook.com/StopPornCulture

https://www.facebook.com/londonabusedwomenscentre

http://www.facebook.com/CenterOnExploitation

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~ Special thanks to the National Center on Sexual Exploitation for creating the graphics in this post and many other great ones like it for this campaign. You can find ALL the helpful graphics at the 50 Dollars not 50 Shades Facebook page, or at the page below by NCSE. We encourage you to share all of them!

http://endsexualexploitation.org/fiftyshadesgrey

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Here is a powerful VIDEO from our SayNOtoSadomasochism YouTube channel! It addresses the parallels between BDSM and George Orwell’s 1984.

It’s by our new anti-BDSM ally and collaboration partner RepublicofSandals, who does a great job explaining how sadomasochism exemplifies the contradictions, double-think and insanity found in “1984.”

To sum it up, BDSM is SEXUAL ABUSE and a form of OPPRESSION. It is NOT any form of love, freedom, liberation, play, or healthy sexuality.

Please watch it and share your thoughts! Let us know if you agree. Thanks! 🙂

http://youtu.be/2Bx8EBhxIME

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“BDSM” DEFINITION:

B = Bondage
D = Domination, Dominance, Discipline
S = Sadism, Sadist, Submission, Submissive, Slave
M = Masochism, Master

OTHER DEFINITIONS
(From Random House Dictionary)

SADISM

1. Sexual gratification gained through causing pain or degradation to others. (Psychiatry)

2. any enjoyment in being cruel.

3. extreme cruelty.

MASOCHISM

1. The condition in which sexual gratification depends on suffering, physical pain, & humiliation (Psychiatry)

2. gratification gained from pain, deprivation, degradation, etc., inflicted or imposed on oneself, either as a result of one’s own actions or the actions of others, especially the tendency to seek this form of gratification

3. the act of turning one’s destructive tendencies inward or upon oneself

4. the tendency to find pleasure in self-denial, submissiveness, etc

SADOMASOCHISM

1. interaction, especially sexual activity, in which one person enjoys inflicting physical or mental suffering on another person, who derives pleasure from experiencing pain

2. gratification, especially sexual, gained through inflicting or receiving pain; sadism & masochism combined

Abbreviations: S-M, S & M

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FACEBOOK: AntiPornography.org – Nonreligious, Pro Free Speech, Pro Healthy Sex & Love ~~ http://www.facebook.com/ENDSexploitation ~~
YOUTUBE CHANNELS: AntiPornographyBlog ~~ AntiPornographyOrg ~~ SayNOtoProstitution ~~ ENDSexTrafficDEMAND ~~ ENDSexAbuseNOW ~~ PornAddictionHelp ~~ SayNOtoSadomasochism ~~ SafeHealthySexNLove ~~
TWITTER ACCOUNTS: @AntiPornography ~~ @ENDSexTraffic ~~ @ENDProstitution ~~ @ENDSexAbuseNOW ~~ @NoSadomasochism ~~ @PornAddictHelp1 ~~ @HealthySexNLove ~~@ExPornStarVLB ~~
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Please make a tax-deductible donation to support the cause if you’re able to. Thanks!

http://www.antipornography.org/donate.html

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The “Fifty Shades of Grey trailer is out and Gail Dines explains in her new article that it’s NOT a “sexy romance,” but rather a sad and tragic tale of ABUSE.

The most likely real-world ending of Fifty Shades of Grey is fifty shades of black and blue. The awful truth in the real world is that women who partner with a Christian Grey often end up hightailing it to a battered women’s shelter with traumatized kids in tow. The less fortunate end up in graveyards.

Right! Feel free to pass this article along to anyone you know who thinks Fifty Shades is just a harmless love story of a rich handsome man in love with a sweet and innocent young woman, who just likes a bit of “kinky fun” in the bedroom…

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/gail-dines/fifty-shades-of-grey-trailer_b_5619802.html?utm_hp_ref=uk

And for anyone who would like to see the trailer for yourself, here it is below.

WARNING: GRAPHIC CONTENT:

http://youtu.be/SfZWFDs0LxA

Also, if you’d like to learn more about the harms of Fifty Shades of Grey in general, feel free to check out our page on this issue at our website. Thanks!

http://www.antipornography.org/Fifty_Shades_of_Grey_harm.html

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FACEBOOK: AntiPornography.org – Nonreligious, Pro Free Speech, Pro Healthy Sex & Love ~~ http://www.facebook.com/ENDSexploitation ~~
YOUTUBE CHANNELS: AntiPornographyBlog ~~ AntiPornographyOrg ~~ SayNOtoProstitution ~~ ENDSexTrafficDEMAND ~~ ENDSexAbuseNOW ~~ PornAddictionHelp ~~ SayNOtoSadomasochism ~~ SafeHealthySexNLove ~~
TWITTER ACCOUNTS: @AntiPornography ~~ @ENDSexTraffic ~~ @ENDProstitution ~~ @ENDSexAbuseNOW ~~ @NoSadomasochism ~~ @PornAddictHelp1 ~~ @HealthySexNLove ~~@ExPornStarVLB ~~
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Please make a tax-deductible donation to support the cause if you’re able to. Thanks!

http://www.antipornography.org/donate.html

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How PORN Fuels RAPE CULTURE & HUMAN TRAFFICKING. Important & powerful new articles & videos via @PornFuelsRape. Please check them out & like, comment and share! Thanks! 🙂

“Pornography fuels the rape culture. Pornography is now a massive industry that provides a depraved buffet of rape, sadism, verbal abuse, sexual humiliation, and other sexual violence to the millions of men and women who now consume it as a matter of course. If we as a culture have decided that sexual assault is entertaining or stimulating, we can hardly be surprised when we as a culture have decided that sexual assault is trivial.”

READ THE FULL ARTICLE BY JONATHON VAN MAREN BELOW, PLUS HIS FOLLOW UP ARTICLE:

http://www.antipornography.org/porn-fuels-rape-culture.html

http://www.antipornography.org/yes-porn-does-trivialize-rape.html

VIDEO: HOW PORN FUELS RAPE VIDEO (Part 1 of 2 part series) – with Jonathon Van Maren

VIDEO LINK: http://youtu.be/AxXitFmpfPg

VIDEO: HOW PORN FUELS HUMAN TRAFFICKING (Part 2 of 2 part series) – with Daniel Gilman

VIDEO LINK: http://youtu.be/KhcjLLhwZjc

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FACEBOOK: AntiPornography.org – Nonreligious, Pro Free Speech, Pro Healthy Sex & Love ~~ http://www.facebook.com/ENDSexploitation ~~
YOUTUBE CHANNELS: AntiPornographyBlog ~~ AntiPornographyOrg ~~ SayNOtoProstitution ~~ ENDSexTrafficDEMAND ~~ ENDSexAbuseNOW ~~ PornAddictionHelp ~~ SayNOtoSadomasochism ~~ SafeHealthySexNLove ~~
TWITTER ACCOUNTS: @AntiPornography ~~ @ENDSexTraffic ~~ @ENDProstitution ~~ @ENDSexAbuseNOW ~~ @NoSadomasochism ~~ @PornAddictHelp1 ~~ @HealthySexNLove ~~@ExPornStarVLB ~~
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Please make a tax-deductible donation to support the cause if you’re able to. Thanks!

http://www.antipornography.org/donate.html

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New Harm Story! Hope shares her tragic abuse that led to her understanding the true devastation of porn.

HOW PORNOGRAPHY CHANGED ME FOREVER

– By Hope T. (female, 37, U.S.)

http://www.antipornography.org/harm_stories.html#167794

My story is hard to share since I’m not sure exactly what happened throughout the entire ordeal. I guess I always knew something was wrong with the man that I met when he asked me to lie about our circumstances, after he sexually assaulted me. I was severely traumatized by that time in my life and the events that surrounded them, so I had no idea how to recover from them, and I ended up in a toxic field that I believe puts me speaking here now.

I felt that since we had already been intimate that there was no backing out of it. I had been married before meeting him, and only intimate with my husband before him. So, it had been just my ex-husband for about ten years, then in one night it was all gone. I felt like a slut and awful.

I dated this man and quickly learned that there was something very wrong with him. He was very abusive and hiding things, one of which was a deep interest in porn. I discovered this on his computer.

Soon enough he began to share intimate knowledge of my body with a close friend, which horrified me on top of the rape. I wondered how his friend knew, and they would pick on me and insult me. The objectification was obvious by him and his friend, as well as a serious attempt to hide things. He also had no problem being an exhibitionist himself, and would do odd things to me when we were just going about ordinary, everyday activities. I learned to just freeze and let these moments pass.

Things came back to me, such as sex to him always being an act that was very much not about connecting, but about control and performance. I learned to survive the experiences, not enjoy them. I did my best to block them out and get through them, and pretend them away — as an actress would. He would do degrading things at times that I won’t fully share, and I was terrified to confront him.

I always had a feeling that the acts were being forced or compelled on me at times, and when I would not agree to things that he wanted, he would look to others for release. I am grateful I did not agree to do many things because of my values. He had pressure me to have sex in public, despite me repeatedly saying “no” — among other terrible requests to which I had to repeatedly tell him “no.”

I was thrown into this relationship as a victim of rape — scarred and scared. He did the crime, provoking and incapacitating me, never letting me know his guilt because he knew I would go to the police. Then his entire objective, I believe, seemed to be the hinting at several ways to get me into compromising sexual moments in order to expose me and himself — whether for money, boredom, or just because he was severely twisted. I never saw any tapes, but I believe that he made them.

I think back at how horrified I am day to day. Comments he made to friends about my body, comments he made about noises I made during sex — as if they were to be heard by other people — made me literally want to vanish off of this earth.

I am one of the most bashful people on the planet when it comes to intercourse. I had been with one person, ONE male before him in nearly a decade, and he took me and tried to turn me into what felt like or what I would call a prostitute. I would not know how I feel much different from one now.

I am devastated by this realization. It was not my choice or with my knowledge, even though I always knew something was very wrong. I also knew that if I ever questioned him on certain things he would become violent, so I think I knew it was not safe to talk about.

I am still afraid. I don’t know how to piece it all together for sure. That is partly why I’m here. He was clearly diseased severely, and thought he could take, intimidate, and dismantle another woman for his gain, and with no repercussions. He didn’t care about my values or morals and what it would do to my life one bit.

I will tell you nothing has kept me up more nights as much as this catastrophe. Nothing has made me want to take my own life as much as this heart wrenching tragedy has. This is to say because it was not my choice, and he was fully cognizant of what he was doing the entire time, along with his cohorts. I would never ever have agreed to the things he began, requested, and did deceitfully.

And since I ended the relationship I had with him, which was coated with lies and abuse, I have been with no one, and have spent my time trying to make my life better. I have felt like the slut or criminal, when again I did nothing. This again makes me cringe. The things he exposed or shared were sacred things to me, and I’m still not sure how to recover, but somehow, somewhere, I will find the strength.

The thought of other men, women, or people looking at my naked flesh, and seeing me have sex without my knowledge, makes my blood boil. Especially since they saw me with a man who raped me, and while doing acts that degraded me without my consent. If he had asked, he knew the answer would have been, “No way!” I’d have blown up in a full rage if he had requested. I’d have stood there and taken whatever abuse came my way.

So in my experience… my story… my power was taken away from me and shared with who knows how many people. When I walk into the world every day, I wonder if people might know me or recognize me from sick images released by a sick man. I hope not. It saddens me beyond repair. It breaks my heart because the choice was not my own, as I have reiterated so many times throughout this passage.

I wonder how many people know that? And if so, if they would continue to feed a sick monster like the porn industry because of my story. Will anyone now watch porn and wonder, “Did that woman get tricked into this?Or is she being drugged and raped? And if so, then I will refuse to watch this. I want no part of this.”

Do you know how many women out there are dying inside because of this violation? It has changed my worldview on this industry forever.

http://www.antipornography.org/harm_stories.html#167794

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Please like and share this story, and leave your comments for Hope here where she can read them. Thanks! 🙂

Read more harm stories:

http://www.antipornography.org/harm_stories.html

Share your own story:

http://www.antipornography.org/share_story.html

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Good news! Another revenge porn site operator and extortionist has been arrested for his crimes! Yay! 🙂

http://www.newson6.com/story/24743878/sand-springs-man-jailed-for-running-revenge-porn-website

[News On 6] — A Green Country man is behind bars after prosecutors say he was running a, revenge porn website. Casey Meyering is being held at the jail waiting to answer to extortion charges in California.

Meyering reportedly posted more than 400 sexually explicit photos and extorted $250 from victims to remove the photos from his website.

Legal Blogger Adam Steinbaugh said, “If they’re going out to Oklahoma to pick them up and drag them back to Northern California they’re serious.”

Agents from California paid a visit to Green Country; a special cybercrimes task force was looking for Meyering in Tulsa. After kicking in the door, agents found Meyering in a midtown hotel room.

California Attorney General Kamala D. Harris said Meyering, 28, owned a website called “WinByState.com,” that asked the public to post nude and explicit photos of people without their permission.

Meyering reportedly encouraged people to post the photos and identify their “win” according to city and state, sometimes using the victim’s name. The site is described as a “user supported website where you can trade your ex-girlfriend, your current girlfriend, or any other girl that you might know,” according to a news release from the California Department of Justice.

WATCH THE VIDEO AND READ THE REST OF THIS STORY AT THE LINK BELOW: (And please don’t forget to like, comment and share to spread the word and support the cause. Thanks! :-))

http://www.newson6.com/story/24743878/sand-springs-man-jailed-for-running-revenge-porn-website

#revengeporn #antiporn #pornharms #pornculture #stoppornculture #sexualharassment

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YOUTUBE CHANNELS: AntiPornographyBlog ~~ AntiPornographyOrg ~~ SayNOtoProstitution ~~ ENDSexTrafficDEMAND ~~ ENDSexAbuseNOW ~~ PornAddictionHelp ~~ SayNOtoSadomasochism ~~ SafeHealthySexNLove ~~
TWITTER ACCOUNTS: @AntiPornography ~~ @ENDSexTraffic ~~ @ENDProstitution ~~ @ENDSexAbuseNOW ~~ @NoSadomasochism ~~ @PornAddictHelp1 ~~ @HealthySexNLove ~~@ExPornStarVLB ~~
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Please make a tax-deductible donation to support the cause if you’re able to. Thanks!

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Stop Porn Culture – Official UK Chapter launch and International Conference March 14 and 15! Please support — and attend if you can!

More info & registration for conference:

http://stoppornculture.org/events/5/spc-intl-conference-london-march-15/

More info & registration for workshops:

http://stoppornculture.org/events/9/2-day-spc-london-conference-march-15-day-2-workshops/

MORE INFO on OTHER upcoming SPC events, including one this summer in the U.S in July in Boston, July 7-11:

http://stoppornculture.org/events/

Also please support the cause and SPC by LIKING their Facebook Page, subscribing to them at YouTube, and following them at Twitter and Tumblr! 🙂

http://www.facebook.com/StopPornCulture

http://www.youtube.com/SPCorganization

https://twitter.com/StopPornCultur1

http://stoppornculture.tumblr.com/

Here is the SPC Facebook post that confirms the date switch of the conference and workshops: (The conference was previously scheduled on Friday.)

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FACEBOOK PAGE: AntiPornography.org – Nonreligious, Pro Free Speech, Pro Healthy Sex & Love ~~ http://www.facebook.com/ENDSexploitation ~~
YOUTUBE CHANNELS: AntiPornographyBlog ~~ AntiPornographyOrg ~~ SayNOtoProstitution ~~ ENDSexTrafficDEMAND ~~ PornAddictionHelp ~~ SayNOtoSadomasochism ~~
TWITTER ACCOUNTS: @AntiPornography ~~ @ENDSexTraffic ~~ @ENDProstitution ~~ @NoSadomasochism ~~ @PornAddictHelp1 ~~ @HealthySexNLove ~~
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